Conflict Resolution

Even Christians can fall prey to the work of the enemy! He loves to use every means possible to get to us, eat at us, tempt us, create conflict between us. If he can get just the tip of his finger on our efforts to expand the kingdom, he's doing what he loves - creating mayhem. Conflict among teams can cause damage unimaginable.

Please be advised that your team is not necessarily sheltered from conflict by the mere fact they are Christians. Conflict creeps in sometimes when we least expect it. Team Leader, you should always first try to help resolve the conflict as soon as you are aware of it.

A few ways of responding to conflict are:

(from "Guiding People Through Conflict" by Peacemaker ministries)

Overlook the offense- Many disputes can be resolved by quietly overlooking the offense and forgiving the offender. (Prov 12:16).

Reconciliation- Wrongs that are too serious to overlook should be resolved through loving confrontation or confession, which allows for reconciliation and forgiveness.

Mediation- When it is impossible to resolve a conflict one-on-one, bring a third party in (Matt. 18:16) and allow for a mediator to help. (If it is unable to be resolved, the team leader should talk with the MTW administrator on the field and figure out the best course of action).

Remember that we are all sinners, and in need of God's grace. Having been given grace by God, we should in turn give grace to others. Each day give him the glory, take the log out of your own eye first, seek restoration in conflict, pursue genuine peace and reconciliation. Seek to be a good steward of your time, and maintain a Christ-like love for those you may not completely get along with - for our Lord has loved us when we've least deserved it!

Even if conflict arises, God can use it for his great purposes! If resolved, it can allow for a witness of the church, restoration, team building and strength, the witness of God's power and love and forgiveness, and a way for non-believers to see the Gospel played out in a concrete way!

"No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it." 1 Cor. 10:13

One website that is extremely helpful in this area is http://www.peacemaker.net/. There, you can sign up to receive a free publication on biblical peacemaking.

Also, The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis provides wonderful insight from Lewis about the ways the enemy likes to create conflict. There are excerpts from the book here: http://bama.ua.edu/~casey006/216/screwtape.html